Article - Unrequited or One Sided Love
Unrequited or One Sided Love or unilateral love as you may call it is the type of love where you love someone deeply but your beloved / lover is not reciprocating or is unable to understand your love . He or she is not aware how much romantically and emotionally you are attached to him / her or in most simple words you are not getting in return love for your love . He or she is not interested in you .
According to Roy F Baumeister , a noted American Psychologist , what makes you desirable is a complex and a highly personal mixture of qualities and traits . You may love someone intensely because of physical beauty or intelligence or other qualities . Opposite sex does attract each other but it is almost impossible to be in
synchronisation without matching of other moral values .
There are different types of Unrequited Love
Your Crush for Someone - You may have crush for someone from school days but he or she might not be even aware of it or even if he / she knows it , may not be interested in you .
Already in Relationship - Both of you love each other as a good friend and at the same time both are in love with another person . Both are deeply involved in your works and not aware of other’s emotional attachment with you .
Love with Celebrity - You may have love for a celebrity or a famous sports person .
You might have his / her several photos and downloads in your cell phone or computers . But the celebrity might have thousands of followers and he or she could not have even notice you nor will ever do so . You are also aware of it but still your attraction towards him / her persists .
Unable to Express Your Love - It may happen that you love her or him but cannot express your love due to some fear or socioeconomic causes like cast , religion , richness or poverty . But your love remains unilateral .
Post Breakup Love - Both of you in love at some point of time but there was a breakup due to some reason. But still you might be attracted to him / her while she or he is no more in your life .
Examples of Unrequited Love - Some beautiful examples of Unrequited or One Sided Love are given in books of great authors and poets and movies .In a book “ Notre - Dame de Paris “ by Victor Hugo the poor boy Quasimodo , a deformed bell ringer , loves Esmeralda who alone amongst Parisians had shown kindness to him . When she is eventually hanged , Quasimodo kills the priest who betrayed Esmeralda . Then he lies with her dead body until he too dies of starvation .
Bollywood movies like “ Cocktail “ and “ Ye Jawani Hai Diwani “ etc and Hollywood movies like “ 500 Days of Summer “ , “ The Great Gatsby “ etc . are a few movies based on one sided love .
Advantages of Unrequited Love
Advantages of Unrequited Love - This is an unselfish love and it may persist . There might be a situation in future when the rejection has to repent for not reciprocating your love and you will be psychologically winner . Secondly you are not going to carry a burden of responsibilities of mutual relationship with her / him There is a feeling of advantage of Unrequited Love , but it is short lived and will be outweighed by disadvantages .
Disadvantages of Unrequited Love
Having your love unreturned is the worst experience .When your love is not reciprocated , naturally you feel dejected and sad . There may be a feeling of rejection . This will result in broken heart , boredom , depression , mood swings , low self esteem , anxiety , frustration and may even lead to suicidal trend .In future you may not like to have love for anyone
Bottomline - You can’t force someone to love you . Usually Unrequited Love happens with most of us in our lives at some point of time .
