The best friends of anyone are "we" ourselves. I, as an 18 year old, find it amusing, that, even the elders complain, about, the world, not able to understand them. To understand others, one needs to understand himself first. We all can understand ourselves, through experiences, learnings, mistakes and many more things.
“ Is it GOD??? Or is it GOD!!! ”
So, I would like to present a few concepts or principles we follow in our life, which I find them as wrong. The most favourite person, to be blamed, for any bad happening, is none other then 'GOD'. The anger over him, after every unfortunate happening, always exceeds more than, what we have for ISIS. I feel, ‘we don't follow God, we stalk him.’
I have seen many types of people, having different thoughts about God. I would like to explain them here.
Case 1: " Oh! I did my best! I tried my best, but I think God is busy with something and someone else. He has again ignored my efforts. You know what, he hates me, dislikes me. Am I so bad? Why am I treated in such a way, by him? "
I just don't know, what do they expect from him? God doesn't depend on how he is or what name he has, he is an approach, an attitude you have towards him. Your feelings, trust, faith, all depends on your approach and attitude you have towards him. See the way who he is, and not the way, you wish to see him. Believe me, change in your approach, change in your results; change in your attitude, change in yourself. He is everywhere and even inside us. We fail to see him, as, we are too busy to find him in the statues and idols of the temples. Understand the God in you, and you don't need to die, to see the heaven. You shall feel it, within you, around you and surrounding you. I hope this may have an answer to your questions.
Case 2; " My life is hell. O Lord, I want to die. I just can't take this pain any more. Please, take me with you. I am done here. This life is waste, and I am too ashamed to live it. I'm too frustated to live and too hurt to move forward. Oh God, please come, and take me away. "
I really feel sorry for the people, who have gone through this. So, to everyone who are in this situation, I would like to say, is ,
“ Life is the most precious gift, from God. Dying is like selling this gift. No value can subdue it, as its priceless. We don’t die beause we have given up, but, we give up, as we stop trying and so, we think of dying. Death noone wants, but everyone gets it. Pain noone deserves, but still we have it. Smiles everyone has, but, we are too busy in the tears. Life everyone wants, everyone has, not all get, but still we don’t value it. God is what, who almost everyone wants, all have, all get, but still we forget, as we are too busy, in crying over the things we regret. Pain and suffering can’t be compared with anyone, though the situation and experience is same, but, the people, the effects, the circumstances, the fight is different. To share, not everyone gets a shoulder to weep and arms to hug. So, is it that, we should give up and die? No, not at all. There is a friend inside you, understand him, feel him, feel your breathe, your heartbeat and think, whether death or dying will end your problems? Life is an opportunity to right the wrong and overcome our mistakes. Its alright if we do mistakes, beacause, “ not every mistake is for punishment, some are for forgiving, some are for learning, and some are there, to know the feeling of ‘ being sorry ‘.” Don’t wait for God to understand you, understand him, and you shall know the purpose of your life. Cheer up, be cool, be calm, have faith, have hope, everything is going to be alright.
Case 3: “ Oh! I love God! He is awesome, amazing, as he is always there with me. I feel so good. I hope he stays with me always. I need him, and it would be sad, if he isn’t there with me. “
Well, its good that, you have God on your side. He is there always. But, you must understand, he has his own reasons for not supporting us always. But, trust me, they are for our own good. To the people, who have experienced this and are in the above situation, then to them, I would like to say,
“ Facing your fears and fighting them is important. God needs you to be brave, he will have your back, but he won’t be your weapon. He needs us to fight, be brave, face our darkest fears, so as to make us strong, confident, positive and an emotionally stable person. ‘ Don’t be his beloved one, but be his favourite one.’ God helps, those who help themselves. So, if you find yourself in the middle of the ocean, in the centre of the storm, in the mouth of danger, then don’t panic, curse noone, pray to almighty, hope for the best and find a way to clear the mess you’re in. Smile, to make the tears ashamed, be strong, to make the ‘ hurdles’ doubt themselves, be always nice to make the goodness blush, support, understand and love yourself, to force your mind to accept you. When you try to know who you’re, then you stumble on the appalling beauty which lies within you. Love yourself, and you shall know, the love of God for you. “
Ask “who we are?” But don’t doubt on “what we are?”
Doubt is the worst thing which breaks trust and destroys faith. Failures and heartbreaks make us to question ourselves. We doubt our potential, some even question their existence. Why?? It is because of lack of faith, trust, belief you have for yourself. You trust others, but you doubt yourself; you love others’, but you question your own love for yourself. If you kill yourself, if you die, the people around, won’t mind much, rigtht? No, its absolutely wrong. These 18 years of my life, I have learnt, no matter, how ugly you are, you will always find a fair face admiring your beauty, no matter how weak you’re, you will find the strong appreciating the strength in you, no matter how mean, rude you are, the nice shall find a way in you, because our life is an opportyunity given, to help us go big. Every moment, every breath, every heartbeat is a hope given to us, to make up for our mess, our mistakes. After every tear, a smile is bound to follow, we just have to wait for it. May be , the wait is too longer, but trust me, its worth our patience. Don’t think you’re unlucky or the unfortunate one. Look in the mirror, and you’ll unearth the biggest fortune, you’ve ever known. “Relations are born due to trust, but they live strong due to faith.” So, even in your darkest time, even when your lips crave to smile, your eyes are tired of wetness, even when you ignore the bitter truth and accept the sweet lie, its important that you forgive yourself and still have faith.
“Realize your abilities and capabilities, and turn them into realities.”
Your mind is ‘what you are’, your heart is ‘who you are’ and your brain is ‘how you are’. Abilities, capabilities and talents are nothing but the truths, facts and gifts which unreveal themselves as you go on a journey to discover yourself. Many are clueless about this journey. We’re unknown to the world inside us, and we expect the world to understand us, where else, we don’t even know who we are. We all have great powers, we just have to dig them out from ourselves. We all are talented people, we all have the X-Factor within us. The fools ignore it, the clever know it and the wise use it. Stephen Hawking was adjudged by cancer at a very young age, but he knew that he had the thing in him, he believed it, and the rest is history. ‘Legends are never born, they are created.’ No one knows their future, but some ‘know themselves’, and eventually they work in the present, to cover up the past, so as to have a great future. We’re too busy in wailing over the thorns, when above them lies a beautiful, blossoming fragrant flower. When we realize, we know; we know, then we act; we act, then we improve, and every time we improve, a new individual is born within us. So, do the act and justify it.
“ Be the change, or change your Being “
People are afraid to change and some change because of others. But, I feel, change is for the better and better is the change. Here’s what I feel about it,
Case 1: “ I changed myself for him/her/them, so that I ain’t a problem to anyone. But still, people look at my faults. Why??”
For the people in this situation, to them I would like to say,
“ Don’t change for others, but be a change which changes others.” Changing for or because of someone is good, unless and until it affects your happiness and the way of your living. You’ve the ability to change yourself, so change yourself for the better being. Some change due to situations and some because of its circumstances. Experiences make and break a man. So, please understand, ‘change , not because you’re forced to, but because you want to.’ A change can turn ‘tears into smiles’, ‘thorns to flowers’, ‘appreciation to admiration’, ‘liking into love’, and ‘beauty to a mesmerizing aura’. A change should make you and not destroy you. A positive change can make smiles into laughter, temporary happiness to permanent satisfaction, calmness to peace, pain to healing, dying to breathing and ‘a life gets its meaning’.
Case 2: “ I won’t change myself, no matter what. Why should I change? Let people accept me as I am. So, I won’t change myself for others.”
I feel these are self-made people. Not changing and staying true to yourself is a mark of a strong character. But it restricts us from accepting the other new changes. To understand oneself is good, but to use it for further improvement is better. I ain’t saying to change yourself, but be open for the world new to you. Don’t be afraid to enter it. See it, know it and you’ll learn more, may be it shall make you more confident, strong and may beautify your personality. Some people choose to stay in their own self and only with those with whom they like to share their space with. We all have our own worlds, I understand, but, no world is good and happy for long, if everything in it, stays and remains the same. Even the weapons get wear out, if they’re used too much, no matter how sharp they are. Like the weapons, we all need a new polishing, a new shining, new sparkle and always a world which does this job for us. So, don’t be on your own. Let new people be a part of you and you be a part of new world inside them. See the difference, when you give yourself ‘ the lost freedom’. Not everytime you may appreciate it, but sometime, you will surely admire it.
“ Don’t Leave your Life, but Live your Life “
“My Life, My Rules”. Oh yeah, that’s right. But according to me, it’s like, “Your Life, My Rules”. Yes, that’s right. We all are controlling each others’ lives, aren’t we? We make our own assumptions, own dreams and some force people to be a part of it. We take extreme decisions which not only affects us, but also the people related to it. We’re not like the grown-ups, but we’ve lessons from them, we’re not parents, but have seen parenting, we all aren’t experienced as much as the old men, but we surely have their advices. So, we should use them, for the better being. Instead of finding a place in the outside world, wait, pause and think for a moment and wonder what lies inside us. How can we expect peace around us, when we ourselves are troubled? We all have a chance to be better, to be something more then a person, more then what we’re now and to live more then a life. Accept ‘who you are’, forgive ‘what you were’, change to live ‘how you feel to be’, improve to become ‘what you wish to be’, and stay the same, when you see yourself at the position, ’where you always wanted to be……………. ‘.
I hope you all enjoyed and loved this. I would be glad, if it has helped someone to be a difference in their life…
THANK YOU
